Seeking God Knows What

I post on an adoption discussion board on Bethany Christian Services web site.

There had been a thread about a month ago, in which an adoptive mom C said some things that you could tell by her son’s birthmom V’s response she had no idea C thought these things and, of course, the adoption is final, so certainly V could not undo it, if she wanted to, plus J, the son, is the same age as Widget and has been in the adoptive family home and is attached to them. V has since essentially disappeared from the board- I can’t say that those posts are to blame but she is certainly not the same kind of poster she was before these things “came out”.

A new thread started the other day and in response to a post C made, I decided to send her a private message rather than post on the board what I was thinking.

C responded by publicly posting my private message “daring” me to own up to it. Why wouldn’t I? I did not say anything in there that makes me look poorly. I just told her that perhaps she ought to think about what she was posting and if she wanted V to read those feelings and thoughts in such a public way. I also tried to empathize with her because I am an adoptive mom in a similar open situation. And because she said she was a Christian before, I offered a prayer for her to find peace and happiness with her role as J’s adoptive mom and her relationship with V.

So now I’m stuck and a little bit hurt, not too much since this isn’t a “real-life” relationship, just an internet one…