Seeking God Knows What

We had a visit with L, her dad, stepmom & youngest sister on Saturday.  Widget was very excited to go and see L, though it took a few minutes for her to warm up since we were meeting at their place instead of ours.  The visit was good overall.  We have never had any worries about boundaries.  They respect us as Widget’s mom & dad and I do not feel at all threatened by having a relationship with them.

So why am I bringing this up, if all seems so good?

Because when it was time to go, I could see the tears in L’s stepmom’s and her dad’s eyes.  They were trying desperately not to let us see them teary-eyed but both T and I noticed.  And my heart broke for them again, like the day L relinquished her rights forever. 

Even though I know we are not keeping Widget from them, they do not get to see her as much as their other grandchildren.  In fact, L was the “odd man” out from her sisters by placing Widget in an adoption, because they all single parented their children (two are now married).

If it is this hard for me to have them say goddbye over and over, how hard must it be for them?