Profiles! Pictures! Letters! Oh My!
June 17, 2008I’m trying to pull together the pictures for our adoption profile. At first, I thought I’d do it digitally but I think I’m going to go through my albums and pick out photos to use, then find the digital versions. I just have too many and they aren’t organized well enough on this computer to sort through them.
I don’t really like the idea of having to do a profile. I know why we need to do one but to me it just makes me feel icky and like I’m promoting why “my family is better than all the others” to parent a baby. It is why I don’t like networking to adopt or agency marketing/trolling for expectant parents.
It is one of the main reasons why we chose the very small agency we are using. Right now, she doesn’t do much marketing or advertising. She mostly works on referrals, though she would like to figure out a way to advertise without feeling like she is ”marketing for babies” because she believes that most expectant parents who use the “crisis pregnancy” options in the area are being underserved since most of them are of the “ADOPTION IS THE BEST OPTION” philosophy. It is an option but not necessarily the best
I know it sounds contradictory to not want to market ourselves/network and to choose an agency that deliberately doesn’t do such stuff since we do want to adopt again, sooner rather than later. I believe that there are situations where adoption is a good option, and we do desire to build our family this way but I also believe people experiencing a crisis pregnancy shouldn’t be looked at as a way to make money for an agency or fill MY need to be a parent.
its hard! how do you “put yourself out there” with out seeming to advertise as “out there” per se?
How do we as adoptive parents find situations where placement WILL happen without getting into a “I’m better then you” place?
I remember reading through others profiles to see just how one could put one of these buggers together and thinking to myself, well, for one thing, I am NOT promising Disney Land! Apparently that is what the perfect family dreams of doing with their kiddos, profile after profile said that and it just made me a bit nausea.
I wish I had a quick tip for ya….but all I can offer is comiseration! My guess is that because you are already trying to be careful, (for lack of the right word here) yours will turn out well!
Oh I think I love you! I have to believe that based on your pure intentions and absolute desire to find a situation where an emom is presented with options and chooses placement as HER decision will certainly benefit you in the end. Not to mention the wonderful child that will join your family!!!
Best of luck to you on your journey!!!
I love your pure heart. I wish you the best as you embark on this journey again.