Archive for July, 2008

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Green Living Update

July 29, 2008

Yeah.  So my goals for green living have become a little harder to achieve than I had hoped, particularly the organic foods one.  I did really well for awhile and then the increase in food costs at the store started impacting my budget.  I have been trying to go to the farmers market one of the days it is open during the week for our fresh vegetables/fruit.  But buying in the store has become challenging for me.  Maybe it would help if I could shop at a store like Whole Foods where the WHOLE store is focused on natural or organic goods instead of trying to pick from the choices at meijer, where it can be much easier to buy the non-organic/natural versions (and cheaper!).  Our local natural food stores are very very small and very very expensive, which my budget can’t afford, especially with the price of gas, saving for an adoption, a growing child (I swear she is barely going to make it through the summer in her 4T clothes! I am NOT ready to shop in the girls section- I still want to shop in the toddler section).

I have managed to switch all my household cleaners to green/natural products- with the exception of laundry detergent.  I just bought Cheer Free & Gentle again because I have not had any luck in getting Widget’s stains out of her clothes with the natural laundry detergents I have tried.  If anyone has a suggestion, let me know.  I have tried adding baking soda or washing soda to the load, pretreating, etc.  I mostly wash on cold, occasionally warm with cold rinse, never hot.

And I am working on weeding Widget’s toys- most of the plastic ones went to the basement when we moved and since she hasn’t asked for them in 3 months, I think I’m safe to dispose of them.  I am starting a list of the kinds of toys I want her to have from companies that are much more environmentally sensitive but I have to be much more selective since they are more expensive.  I am also developing a list of what I would like for nextbaby and I have to do some serious work on the baby stuff I do have.  I would also like to get organic cotton bedding and a new mattress for the crib.  Ours was inherited from my older sister in the first place, so it is 10 years old anyway.  I sometimes feel a bit guilty because I do plan to take most of my non-desired stuff to the consignment store or goodwill and I think about exposing some other child to the possible chemicals but I don’t want it to just go to the dump. 

Another thing I am starting to get more into, although I need to retrain myself as much as I need to make the change for Widget is the Waldorf philosophy for early childhood education.  Much more free-play oriented, less tv, less computer- Me? with less computer time? less tv as a way to entertain my “must be entertained at all times, doesn’t like to play by herself 3 year old”? :-P My mother really got into this when my younger siblings were kids, partially because her sisters had access to a Waldorf school over by Ann Arbor.  I remember reading some of the stuff then and thinking I wish I could go to school there.  This is harder to do in our area than in others as there absolutely NO resources around here for it.  In fact, our rather decently sized library carries 5 books about Waldorf education, so you have to get everything through inter-library loan and there are NO natural children’s product stores around here- one of the reasons we want to open a store.  There are two stores in Grand Rapids but one is quite small and doesn’t have a lot of product; the other is pretty good but is all toys and a few books without other goods like baby items/cloth diapers/etc. 

It does sound contradictory to read that paragraph and think about the fact that I do want a Wii….

So my green living is kind of stagnant at the moment but I still keep thinking about it.

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Adopting Again: Grant Application

July 27, 2008

I’m excited.  I made it to the second step for a grant towards our adoption expenses.  I’ve gotten a grant from the SAMFund before for my prescription expenses but since I’ve managed to whittle those down to generics at a manageable cost, I did not request it the last year.  I wasn’t sure if they would let me apply again since I’ve already been given grants from them and they don’t actually have adoption expenses on their list of categories although they do have fertility treatments but she said to go ahead and do the first step application.  I just received the notification today to complete the full application, which means an essay about my cancer experience, what being a cancer survivor has meant to my life, and how the funds would help me along with more in-depth financials and medical information.

Wish me luck!  We have the money we would need saved provided we have NO failed match expenses, so any extra would relieve some of the hidden worries that we won’t have enough money to do adopt again without incurring any debt.

And I ran across our Carter’s outlet having a warehouse sale.  I actually bought one newborn outfit in a boy pattern and the same outfit in a girl pattern for less than $5 each.  My first purchase for our future child!

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Online or Local?

July 24, 2008

Widget woke me up at 3 AM because she has some serious bug bite issues and I’m still awake now at 4.

Of course, as I was lying (or is it laying- I never know!) awake, my mind started thinking about stuff we are going to need for the next baby. One of those things is the maclaren stroller (in chocolate brown!) both T and I would like to get.  We’ve thought about getting it now to use on the few times Widget still needs a stroller, then to keep for whenever baby #2 makes his/her entrance into our lives. 

Part of the reason this is on my mind is because on one of the adoption forums I visit, someone posted a link to an online store that sells last year’s models at a discounted price.  They have essentially the same thing as this year, just with different straps.  It is $45 less than buying this year’s and it has free shipping, making the cost a little more palatable to us because while they aren’t the most expensive stroller on the market, we tend towards the cheaper stuff like the $9.99 umbrella stroller we are using right now for Widget that leaves T bent in half if he pushes her and I can hardly push as it is so hard to steer with Widget in it.

But then I got to thinking about whether I ought to be buying locally and supporting our local stores.  You see, we saw this year’s model at a newer baby store downtown and I have always had a thing about supporting local stores or smaller stores, which comes from working for and managing our local toystore for seven years (sadly, that store has gone downhill in product quality since the owner sold it a year or so ago).  in fact, I debated for a LONG time about whether or not to switch my prescriptions to a major pharmacy instead of my local pharmacy in order to save money.  In the end, I did switch since I was drowning in costs but partially because I also thought since I’m buying them in my LOCAL store, at least I’m helping keep jobs in our area- something that needs to be done.  And I do LOVE Target but again at least I can semi-justify it by buying in the store instead of online.

The other reason is because my sister and I want to open our own children’s store in a few years to provide natural toys and children’s products we can’t find in our area- only online or across the state- and I hope other people out there feel the same way about supporting our local businesses.  And, no, this new baby store will NOT really be competition for our vision.  There are a few things we could overlap on but they are more of an “upscale” baby boutique whereas we are focusing on natural/organic products for children.

So do I save money and buy online?  Or do I support my local store as I would want others to do for us when we open?

Oh, the things that keep me awake! :-P

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No Wii

July 21, 2008

The wii is going back to Target.

I decided I would feel too guilty to enjoy playing it….

But I’m sad :(

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Wii or No Wii?

July 20, 2008

So we bought a Wii today.  I didn’t think that Target would actually still have them in stock but they did.  But we haven’t opened it because both of us are feeling a bit guilty about buying it and whether or not we should have.  Even though, I also had a 10% off coupon, which helped and we paid for it in cash, without taking any money from savings.

Sigh.

I really want it.  So does T.  But it isn’t really the best use of our money….

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Adopting Again: the home visit

July 15, 2008

We had our home visit on Friday night.  Since our social worker is our agency director, we don’t have to wait for anyone else’s approval. So now, despite not having it in written form yet, we are homestudy approved, though we are waiting on a couple references and our background check/fingerprint results.  As she said, “If we need your written homestudy in a hurry, I’ll get it done.” I’d love it if we needed it in a hurry but I’m also content to wait for a bit.  This is the same social worker who ended up matching us the day we were approved with her agency, although we had been waiting two years with another agency prior to that.

It turned out to be a rather comical home visit.   The church across the street from our house had vacation bible school last week with their big finale on Friday night.  This finale included a petting zoo, located in the sideyard directly across from our house, meaning the street is essentially blocked off.  Widget, upon noticing the animals across the street, snuck out the front door and, of course, I notice this JUST as our social worker is pulling around the corner and into the driveway, where Widget proceeds to stand in the middle of the driveway not moving, until I called to her to get out of the way.  Good thing our social worker knows us and that we don’t just let Widget run wild through the neighborhood!

But that isn’t the last of it.  In order to understand this next part, I have to preface with the layout and location of our house.  We are renting a small ranch on a corner lot, with the house facing a street that ends in a cul-de-sac.  Behind our house is actually a lot and a half- the half belonging to the people behind us.  The whole backyard is open with very few trees and a half-driveway located in our neighbor’s part of the yard.  I’d like to have some sort of fence protection because I feel very exposed to the cross street, which is a busier residential road but I digress. 

Anyway, we are sitting at the dining room table, which looks out over the backyard, going over paperwork, when we see not one but TWO cars driving through our backyard to our next door neighbor’s yard.  Apparently since the road in front of our house and our neighbor’s was blocked by this time with the petting zoo, and our neighbors were having some sort of gathering that evening too, they just decided to DRIVE through our yard using the half-driveway to access it.  Shortly thereafter, we notice two little kids, probably 2 and 5, fully-clothed, playing in Widget’s wading pool still full of water from our afternoon playtime.

By this time, we are cracking up, wondering if we should go outside and charge parking plus pool fees since our yard is apparently a free-for-all.

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My Old House is Empty now

July 10, 2008

The people who bought our last house here in Holland moved out this past weekend.  I wonder where they moved to and why.

They haven’t sold it yet and it is now listed $4500 less than the price we sold it to them four years ago.  How ironic that it is exactly in our price range for our future home.  I feel badly for them that they will be losing money but I only hope they have a reason to move now rather waiting for the market to rebound.

It is funny to look at the pictures on the listing and see much of what we did to the house still there, except some paint in the living room, kitchen and one bedroom.  They even have the curtains and curtain rods I chose hanging from the windows.

I don’t miss my last house, in fact, I was glad to be away from it and the financial drain it was on our life, but this one I actually do miss, despite its one tiny bathroom and eat-in kitchen.  It was a good house. 

It is such a huge what if for me.  Where would we be if we hadn’t moved out?  Would we still have made the decision to switch adopton agencies, which landed us in a whirlwind placement?  Would some of the other things that have happened in the last four years still have happened- financially, personally?  It isn’t worth dwelling on but I am sometimes curious….

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Up North Recap

July 9, 2008

And now I shall bore you with pictures from our few days up north.  All I can say was it was weird, somewhat stressful but the time I spent with Widget and T playing on the beach was worth it.  Note there are no pictures of me!  Guess who had the camera? :-P (Click on the pictures to make them bigger!)

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Stress

July 8, 2008

Stress and I are not good friends.  I know most people don’t like to feel stress either but it has a tendency to manifest itself more deeply with me.

I had an appointment with #5 yesterday morning and it was fairly good.  But today I feel a little bit like I hid how I was really feeling, so as to not turn into a sniveling, weeping mess during the appointment.  I’ve had a good streak going here and really feel like I’ve come a long, long way in the last two years.  It is just days like today when I realize that, for me, depression is not just a one-time thing, it is life-long battle to keep it from having control over my life.

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Heading north

July 1, 2008

Widget and I are heading north tomorrow for the 4th.  Northern Michigan is my absolutely favorite place to vacation.  Full of my own memories and those I hope to create for my children.  It just reflects the quintessential summer vacation in a cottage on the lake and its small town celebrations of the 4th of July are great.

It is just going to be different this year with my parents’ divorce and my sisters with kids not coming up either.  Both of my parents will be up there, just at different places.  We are staying with my dad at the cottage he rents, probably the better choice than my grandparents’ where my mom will be.  I debated about not going but I don’t know that any other time this summer will work for T and we both like to spend a few days up there in the summer.  I have to cope until Thursday night without him, but then he will be there until we go home on Saturday.  I suspect we will spend much of our time together sans my mixed up family dynamics, doing our own things as a family.

Of course, I haven’t packed anything yet plus I need to do some laundry and clean the bathrooms before I go.

It is probably a good thing I have an appointment scheduled with #5 for Monday ;)