Seeking God Knows What

Here are links to two blog posts I read today I felt needed to be shared.

Please pray for Jenna’s friend’s brother.

Read Ellen’s wee book.

I post on an adoption discussion board on Bethany Christian Services web site.

There had been a thread about a month ago, in which an adoptive mom C said some things that you could tell by her son’s birthmom V’s response she had no idea C thought these things and, of course, the adoption is final, so certainly V could not undo it, if she wanted to, plus J, the son, is the same age as Widget and has been in the adoptive family home and is attached to them. V has since essentially disappeared from the board- I can’t say that those posts are to blame but she is certainly not the same kind of poster she was before these things “came out”.

A new thread started the other day and in response to a post C made, I decided to send her a private message rather than post on the board what I was thinking.

C responded by publicly posting my private message “daring” me to own up to it. Why wouldn’t I? I did not say anything in there that makes me look poorly. I just told her that perhaps she ought to think about what she was posting and if she wanted V to read those feelings and thoughts in such a public way. I also tried to empathize with her because I am an adoptive mom in a similar open situation. And because she said she was a Christian before, I offered a prayer for her to find peace and happiness with her role as J’s adoptive mom and her relationship with V.

So now I’m stuck and a little bit hurt, not too much since this isn’t a “real-life” relationship, just an internet one…

It is funny how “small” the world is…

PH has a sister who blogs (well, I think he has two sisters but I’m not positive). How do I know this? We were discussing a book we both read called Blue Like Jazz. The author, Don Miller, is coming to a local college at the end of April for its Festival of Faith and Writing. As we both wanted more information about the festival, he commented his sister works part of the time for the college and is a sponsor/donor for the festival. So I figured it out by reading the sponsors list. Then, I googled her name and through a couple of links of her writing, found her blog.

Well, her blog links to a blog of a young woman named Jana (who is a birthmom of two boys in an open adoption). Because of my interest in adoption, being an adoptive mother, I clicked on her blog. I then clicked on a blog under the Birthmothers BlogRing list on Jana’s blog and discovered that it was N. I met N on one adoption forum, realized she was on another adoption forum and we often found ourselves posting on similar topics and really challenging each other’s thoughts about what adoption is, how it comes about, etc. in today’s society. I was thrilled, to say the least, to find N because I always admired her writing and honesty about her experience and life as a birthmom and a parenting mom now. Neither of us posts as much to the adoption forums we used to visit (although I still peruse them on a daily basis), so now I can keep up better with her.

Weird how that happened!